Keep your Feelings Under Control Like Bill Gates. Here are 7 Strategies

2 min readDec 6, 2021

In 1998, An anarchist prankster stuck Bill’s face with a cream pastry.

Despite, being a highly influential person in 1998 Bill Gates never pressed any charges.

Here are the 7 Strategies to Keep your Feelings Under Control

Pause

Pausing gives you time to stop and think before you act. Doing so can prevent you from doing things you’ll later regret. If you feel your emotions getting out of control, take a pause. If possible ignore the situations.

Mind your tone

We tend to respond to people using the same tone they use to speak to us. If you need to have an emotionally charged conversation, speak in a way that’s calm and collected. And if a discussion begins to escalate, focus on softening your tone.

Mute

Sharing your opinion when others are aggravated can be counterproductive. If things get emotional, and you can’t leave, you need to stop talking and let them express their feelings. Breathe deeply and remember that odds are temporary.

Seek to understand to be understood

Recording means concentrated listening, with the intent to learn more about another’s perspective. You’re not trying to figure out how to reply; Instead, you’re listening to understand

Examine the issue

Emotionally charged discussions are often rooted in deep-seated issues that will continue springing up if left alone. Carefully think about where, when, and how to reintroduce the subject, and do it once everyone’s had the chance to cool down.

Think of the Consequences

Forget about how you feel in the moment.

Pause,
Step back, and
think of the long-term consequences of your actions.

Doing so can help you think clearly, see the big picture, and make better decisions.

Slow down

Slowing down to analyze your negative emotions helps you figure out the underlying reasons behind your feelings and lead you to potential solutions.

TL;DR

Pause
Mind your tone
Mute
Seek to understand to be understood
Examine the issue
Think of the Consequences
Slow down

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